Want to Challenge Your Fear of Rejection? Write a Book!

I’m not delusional, I know that nobody likes to be rejected. I can’t imagine there’s someone walking this planet who thinks: I’d really love to be rejected right about now.

I do think that some of us are better at handling rejection than others. P.S. I’m part of the “others.”

The fear has been around as long as I can remember. I played along in bad friendships in order to avoid the icky feeling. I didn’t rock the boat at work in order to not experience that pit in my stomach. I held off on submitting my book to agents because it was just an open invitation for the anxiety inducing probability of NO.

I know why I have the fear but just because I can identify the cause, it doesn’t make it automatically go away. I have to consciously work through it.

What does this look like? Finally getting my book out there. Continue reading →

Five Things To Remember When Life Is Tough

It’s only May and I’ve had enough of the curveballs…(DO YOU HEAR ME, 2017?!)

I’ve been stretched and challenged in ways I didn’t anticipate. I’ve been emotional, more so than usual, and I’ve felt beaten down. There have been feelings of hopelessness and dread. The hardest part of all this isn’t what I’ve gone through and it isn’t the emotions attached to it.

The hardest part has been my inability to choose joy.

Look, you all know that I’m all for riding your feelings, not fighting them. Every feeling is valid and deserves to be felt. However, I also believe that feelings are no place to set up camp.

Feel what you need to feel and MOVE ON. (DO YOU HEAR ME, IDA?!) Continue reading →

How To Win At Life

I started the year convinced that I didn’t feel very “adult.” As the year is coming to a close, and as I find my way deeper into my twenties, I realize that the feeling of youth has changed.

I’ve begun to feel the aches of planning: Life Insurance, Retirement Plans, New Living Room Furniture.

Earlier this year I wrote about buying a house. It ended up not working but we got a taste of what it would be like and since then we’ve put a real plan in motion.

I’ve never desired a child before. I wasn’t adamant about not having one. I never had feelings about it at all….until recently. It’s only an inkling, but it’s there. Continue reading →