My Latest Piece for Thought Catalog!

Ever since I can remember the phrase, “I don’t want ____” has filled my head.

When I was a kid I didn’t want to be a nerd.

When I was a teenager I didn’t want to be an outcast.

When I went away to college I didn’t want to fail.

As a married adult trying to figure out her career and overall life, now more than ever, I am filled with “I don’t want to ______.”

I never thought this way of thinking was bad. Instead, I thought it was great!


29 Ways I’m Adulting So Hard Right Now

Adult. Adulting. Adulthood. No matter how it was phrased, no matter how cute people tried to make it sound, I couldn’t quite wrap my mind around the concept.

When I was a kid, being an adult meant sitting in the front seat and writing papers.

When I sat in the front seat and wrote papers (sometimes at the same time), being an adult meant having a job and paying bills.

When I got my first job and started handing my money over, being adult meant getting married.

When I got married, being an adult meant having a kid.

I still don’t have a kid but I’ve been married for nearly 7 years, legally an adult for 11 years and I’m barely starting to feel like an adult. Continue reading →

Want to Challenge Your Fear of Rejection? Write a Book!

I’m not delusional, I know that nobody likes to be rejected. I can’t imagine there’s someone walking this planet who thinks: I’d really love to be rejected right about now.

I do think that some of us are better at handling rejection than others. P.S. I’m part of the “others.”

The fear has been around as long as I can remember. I played along in bad friendships in order to avoid the icky feeling. I didn’t rock the boat at work in order to not experience that pit in my stomach. I held off on submitting my book to agents because it was just an open invitation for the anxiety inducing probability of NO.

I know why I have the fear but just because I can identify the cause, it doesn’t make it automatically go away. I have to consciously work through it.

What does this look like? Finally getting my book out there. Continue reading →