My Latest Piece for Thought Catalog!

Ever since I can remember the phrase, “I don’t want ____” has filled my head.

When I was a kid I didn’t want to be a nerd.

When I was a teenager I didn’t want to be an outcast.

When I went away to college I didn’t want to fail.

As a married adult trying to figure out her career and overall life, now more than ever, I am filled with “I don’t want to ______.”

I never thought this way of thinking was bad. Instead, I thought it was great!


Want to Challenge Your Fear of Rejection? Write a Book!

I’m not delusional, I know that nobody likes to be rejected. I can’t imagine there’s someone walking this planet who thinks: I’d really love to be rejected right about now.

I do think that some of us are better at handling rejection than others. P.S. I’m part of the “others.”

The fear has been around as long as I can remember. I played along in bad friendships in order to avoid the icky feeling. I didn’t rock the boat at work in order to not experience that pit in my stomach. I held off on submitting my book to agents because it was just an open invitation for the anxiety inducing probability of NO.

I know why I have the fear but just because I can identify the cause, it doesn’t make it automatically go away. I have to consciously work through it.

What does this look like? Finally getting my book out there. Continue reading →

Success is the Loneliest Number…But it Doesn’t Have to Be

We’re living in a very solitary time. It seems like everyone is looking out for themselves. We stay in our lane because what’s happening over there isn’t affecting us so why bother?

What would happen if we picked up our head and paid attention to what’s going on around us? What would happen if, instead of minding our own business, we inserted our nose into our neighbor’s lane in order to help them out?

Success doesn’t have to be a lonely road. Success doesn’t have to be a selfish act. Success is plentiful and there’s enough to go around.

So, how do we help each other succeed? Continue reading →