One of my biggest problems is my big mouth.
Well, I guess it’s not really a problem. I’ve been told it’s a problem but when I think about it, I’m actually pretty proud of it.
I’m outspoken. I say/ask things that I want to. Perhaps I’m too forward, perhaps I’m too bold, perhaps I’m too honest. My philosophy is this: If I want to know, I ask. If I want to say it, I do. I figure the worst that could happen is that the person who I am in conversation with won’t want to answer or will want to change the subject. Totally fair; I’ll move on, no problem.
While I have no problem saying what’s on my mind, I’ve always hit a bit of a snag when it comes to speaking up for myself.
When I was a kid, I let abuse go on for a long time because I was too scared to say anything.
When I worked at a restaurant I allowed a customer to berate me and use racial slurs towards me because I forgot to toast his bread. I was too scared that speaking up meant getting in trouble.
When I was in high school, I allowed a friend to make me feel less than because I was scared that she wouldn’t like me as much anymore.
When I was first married, I let some family members dictate my life because I was too scared that speaking up meant losing them.
Common denominator here: fear of the repercussions.
Somewhere along the way I stopped being fearful because I was just too tired. I speak up for myself now, someone very close to me (looking at you, life partner) encouraged me to do so.
Now there’s no going back.
It is so incredibly important to not only stand up for yourself when you’re being wronged but to stand up for those you love or those who cannot stand up for themselves.
If a customer is being rude and unkind, it is not only allowable but absolutely necessary to say, “You cannot talk to me this way.”
If a friend isn’t being a friend, it is vital that you say, “You cannot talk to me this way.”
If a family member is speaking out of line, it is completely justifiable to say, “You cannot talk this way.”
If the world is telling lies, it is incredibly important that you say, “You cannot talk this way.”
With everything we do and say, there will be consequences. Don’t let the fear of the fallout prevent you from doing what is right; not just for you but for those around you.
Always, ALWAYS, do what is right and open that big mouth of yours to speak up and speak out.